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DATING, FOR WHAT?

 



"I am in a relationship, i just date for the fun of it. I don't wanna be left out.
Relationship are to be enjoyed and dating is not excluded."

The above catchphrase is what I hear must people say about dating.

When others find true purpose of dating, they found nothing because they seek nothing other than fun.

They are not impacted by the person they are dating aside from s*x, and sit out every weekend.

I'll always say that if you can not  influence, or be influenced, impact or be impacted, be it positively or negatively in any relationship you find yourself, it is better you walk away.

Don't care about the fun alone,  know the true essence of you being in a relationship.

If you or your partner do not know why you guys are in a relationship, then you guys are sure to take it for granted.

Weekends is sweet but weekends in a relationship with purpose is sweeter.

Don't be so overwhelmed by the joy of going out with your partner, sit out and drink the nonsense out of your life without finding the true meaning of what you are into.

Before you labelled all  men are the same / all women are the same, rethink your dating purposes and set them accordingly.

If you don't, when you are dumped you will move to the next one with the same mindset that there is no good relationship.

You must  have a rethink about your relationship and perhaps add more value to it than s*x, elegant dresses, beautiful pictures and Friday night funs.
It will do you a lot of good if you should.

Relationship is not all about fun, add value and give your partner a reason to stick around even when s"x and Friday night fun is no more there.

Don't keep going on the same circle of dating without purpose.

Remember "what worth valuing must have value".

**** Not your regular relationship counselor ****

Happy weekend, friends.

✍️  Patrick Ekong

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