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AN ADVICE TO A L♡DY

 

"All men are the same... My boyfriend promised me heaven on earth and now he has lost his sense of reasoning.... my friend, Maris lamented with  teary eyes.  


For the past three days, she has refused talking to me in the class and it was affecting her academic activities. 


On a Monday morning, when she was supposed to sit for a test on Digital Economics, she had locked herself in her room without wanting to have anything to do with anyone.


I tried several times to make her convide in me, something she has always been doing but she wouldn't spill what the problem was.


After constant pressing, Maris finally open up that evening about what she has been going thru in a relationship she expected to turn into something official. Maris narrated how the boyfriend was negating all the promises he made her with his lifestyle and careless attitude towards the relationship. 


To put and icing on the  already soured cake, she had caught him hanging around with her girlfriend. The worst was that he was exerting unnecessary control over her while he was jumping from one pant to another.


All attempt to disentangle herself from the relationship proved abortive as her boyfriend will always remind her of how he helped her in school.


"Sweetie, I am sorry that you have found yourself in this kinda situation... it is really hard to see you like this but believe me things would have been different if you didn't expect so much from your boyfriend." I said,  trying to calm her. 


"I have been advising young people who happened to find themselves in relationships that they are not expected to give in too much so as not to be left disappointed, " i added.


"What would you do? Cry your eye balls out over someone who is somewhere having funfair with his life? No! You don't need to.. "


Over the course of my life, I have come to a conclusion that if you don't want to be disappointed in any relationship don't expect too much from your partner."  I said, trying to advise Maris on the need to move on.


"He has broken my heart and I don't think I can easily forgive him or forget 💔 about it... Maris said with a shaking voice as tears run like a stream down her chin.


" With so much promises and filing my head with ideas of settling down, all he could do was to sleep with my girlfriend...." she wept bitterly, trying to hide her tears with her elbow.


"Maris! I called, you are heartbroken 💔 because you had high expectations on someone who didn't see you the same way..


Relationship is fun but having high hopes is dangerous because change they say "IS CONSTANT", people changes and so are their exigencies... " at this point, Maris realised that maybe she gave in too much in a relationship and she made up her mind to move on and be more careful. 


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Dear lady, stop having huge and unfounded expectations on relationship so that when it doesn't work out you won't be left disappointed.


Don't allow lies told by men sink into your head. It will damage your emotional well-being once they start malfunctioning.


♡ JUST A PEICE OF ADVICE THOU ♡


 Patrick Ekong 

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