A short story..
Did anyone tell you that finding a daughter or son of Adam for that "better and for worst" is easy when you finally made up your mind to stick one place?
Well! I thought so too when I was the CHIEF play boy.
I have always thought that the day you made your mind to settle down, that you won't be short of options at your disposal as the master of the game.
Truth is that finding a wo/man to settle down with is more difficult than when you were flirting the streets, scavenging for what to satisfy the lust for the forbidden fruit.
Once you are ready, the fear of not falling into the wrong hands will make you look at every wo/man in 3D.
Let me drag you on a bit.Here is my story...
I was 21 when i got my first job.
As at that age, plans of settling down never crossed my mind let alone to think of having such a conversation with the many girls that came my way then.
I had graduated early from school and in my days in the university I had girls who had to go through hell, take some sh*ts just to make me happy even without a penny.
The care, love and affection I got then was genuine and my mind was that It was going to be that easy when i will eventually made up my mind to stick.
Seven years in well paid job, and other material things any man would have asked for, I woke up to the reality that I wasn't getting any younger and as such i needed to settle down.
More worst was travelling home to meet my parents. They were becoming more concerned about my life and the fact that they wouldn't want to pass on without beholding my first child.
Often time, travelling home was less spirited as fear of " Dan, when are you giving us our grandchild?" would make me have a second thought of any possibility of going home to meet my parents. Their frustration and pressure was unbearable.
In my days in university, I could still recalled having the best girl as my girlfriend then. Julia was the nicest girl I knew. She was the back bone of my academic success and even more than that.
She was what any man would have wanted for a wife. Julia came into the picture during my year as a 300 level student in the department of Mass Communication.
We both shared the same department but she was in her level 200. We met at a café where I went to print out an assignment on MAC 301 that morning.
From that moment we became friends and later two love birds. Memorises of Julia demanding more seriousness due to my lackadaisical attitude towards our relationship were fresh in my mind.
She was this type that could take and tolerate my poor attitude towards her and most times I felt guilty of having to take her for granted despite her sacrifices and love.
Six months after our graduation, I got a marriage invite from Julia, she was getting married.Taken by a more serious person.
The invite never really moved me then because I first felt I wasn't ready, and above all when I would eventually be ready, I was going to have a lot of girls to choose from.
After seven years of flirting, I decided to settle but I can tell you it is more difficult than finding a black goat in the darkest hours of the evening.
Girls I have been meeting lately all seems to be in for one thing, reaping where they did not sow.
I wish I can turn back the hands of time and have those good old days of having the liberty of having girls loved me for nothing.
They say that 'you can't eat your cake and have it back.' I have learnt that the best time to find a suitable person for marriage is when you have nothing.
When you have a girl/guy who loves you for who you are not for what you've become or what you have.
Most wo/man ignore this in their relationships, played their best opportunities in the name of flirting and they eventually have to search for that one person that will love them genuinely like forever.
NOTE:
Stick to that wo/man who loves you for nothing.
Find it now than finding it when it is too late.
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~ Patrick Ekong ©️
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